I thought I would share this journey, as I did with the first, to provide a sense of what it’s like for a mama with Fibromyalgia to do pregnancy. Find weeks 4-6, 7-10 and 11-14 here and look out for the rest soon!
Unfortunately side sleeping has become a necessity (thanks back) and my neck has not been very happy with me. Despite multiple pillow changes, tossing and turning all night and medicine at bedtime, I’m waking with a rather stiff and sore neck.
The first moderate neck headache occurred late in week 14 and was managed with repeated heatpack, panadol soluable and a relatively quiet day (I have a two year old boy, quiet is not a word to be applied to our days!).
The physiotherapist, who does neck tractions and places acupuncture needles in tight neck and upper back muscles, really helps me. Unfortunately this is not covered at all and private fees are not cheap, so I have to survive on one visit per fortnight. I highly recommend trying this for Fibromyalgia or pregnancy (just ensure they are trained in treating pregnant women as there are points to avoid and there is a slight risk, but they have to disclose this before they treat you).
I had some spotting as we headed into week 15 which gave me a little fright. It’s quite normal in the second and third trimester and is generally alright if it’s light, brown and not accompanied by pain. It would have been so great if I could feel baby move so I could double check!
Nu remained excited about baby, and often told me that he saw the baby on the TV and it was dancing (baby was busy in the scan and it took a while to get the measurements) – confirming it is a direct relation to Nu! He liked to say hi to baby -pat, kiss and do the sign of the cross (a Catholic blessing).
Somehow, while still in bed and having only been awake for a few minutes, I managed to pull a muscle in my neck while stretching out he stiffness from sleeping on my side. OUCH! I was in such agony. On the first morning I couldn’t move without severe spasms radiating down to the shoulder. Luckily, injuries heal, and by day three I could move a little better and had less pain. It took a week to get full movement back and I was rather nervous of moving from side to side in bed after that!
Despite the neck issues, I fully enjoyed the benefits of the second trimester. I relished food and our walks, I enjoyed all my projects and I managed to make a small dent in the tick list of items baby needs. I am determined to organise baby’s room and belongings before the third trimester hits so that I can focus on resting, exercising and generally trying to be well.
I was heartened to find a few blog posts by other expecting fibro/CFS/ME mamas (or mamas when they were expecting) that showed the 20-25 week area to be relatively cope-able too.
The absence of stress and too many work hours has really helped me to cope physically. Although the burden on my husband is not light. I’m hoping that by not getting so run down in pregnancy and having my husband home for six weeks after, that I’ll be able to enjoy (and remember my baby’s early days).
For now I’m enjoying my bump and feeling my baby move.